It’s so easy to get caught up in the drama of pregnancy. Can you think of a woman on a soap opera that didn’t faint during her pregnancy? What about all the “reality” TV shows about pregnancy and labor- wow! Talk about drama: all the rushing around, worrying, emergencies. Drama, drama, drama.
What about all the things that can go wrong during pregnancy? What about all the stories of how difficult and painful labor is? What does it say when the most popular mainstream pregnancy book has so many chapters devoted to what to do if…?
It’s clear there are a lot of reasons most women don’t think about pregnancy or birth as peaceful or wonderful or transformational.
What can you do to change that for yourself?
1. Stick with the positive. If you surround yourself with women, stories, books, information, and care providers who constantly reinforce your positive images of a healthy pregnancy & quick and easy labor, you’re much more likely to live this reality.
2. Tell the TRUTH. Wanting to stay focused on the positive doesn’t mean you should ignore the negative if it comes up. By admitting (out loud) your insecurities and concerns, you allow others to support and encourage you. Everyone has fears and you can work through yours only by acknowledging they are there.
3. Get to know yourself. By paying attention to what is going on within you (and telling the truth), you gain access to a new resource- your Inner Guide or Higher Self. Whether you see this as your intuition or your connection to Source, taking time to practice learning the difference between this resource and your ego will yield amazing results, especially during labor and parenting.
4. Review your results along the way. If you believe you are creating your reality moment to moment, reflect on anything that does not seem to reflect what you desire. Ask yourself. ‘Why am I choosing this experience?’ And really dig deep. Ask for help if you do not find sufficient cause- but be sure to talk with someone who also believes in LOA principles or they are likely to think you are “being too hard on yourself” and coddle you, rather than help you take responsibility for your results.
5. Breathe. This is all practice, even as it’s present life. Real living is about being open to each experience. Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t take anything too seriously, including yourself.
6. Expect the best. Perhaps most obvious when using LOA, and yet each time we encounter something new, our “stuff” comes up, potentially blocking positive thinking. Expect that by paying attention to your “stuff” you will move forward to create what you really want for your pregnancy and your labor & birth. One effective way to identify and focus on what you want is to create a birth plan. The very act of creating a plan forces you to actively decide what you want labor to look like, and BE like. Take the time to intentionally plan your birth. You can create more easily when you have set your intention.
Remember you are not alone on this journey. Look for the resources along the way that will help you stay the course to a positive and transformational outcome. After all, life after baby is never the same. This is creation within creation. Amazing.